After reading a great article I found on Pinterest by Cafemom, I decided to make my own divorce bucket list. Some were taken from her, others I came up with on my own. I hope you’ll follow my journey as I post stories of each thing I’ve been able to cross off and you can share your own stories with me!
Redecorate the apartment
Take a trip alone
Buy flowers for myself
Go to Yoga or a “Soul Cycle” class
Meditate
Get a fight song
Get a break-up song
Go to therapy
Learn to say “No”
Learn to say “Yes”
Flirt with strangers
Go grocery shopping with sunglasses on
Have sex again (with the lights on)
Make a list of everything I want in my next boyfriend
Learn to make myself happy alone
Find my divorce movie - start with “Nights in Rodanthe” for old times sake
Become my own handyman
Learn to forgive him
Buy myself an “I’m Divorced” ring
Save money for my own goals
Get a regular haircut and my nails done
Get a tattoo
Do something wild
Learn to love myself BEFORE dating again
Make friends
Dance in public
Get drunk and forget my name for a night (then never do it again)
Break something like glass
Spend a lot of money on myself
Learn ASL
Buy myself a corgi
Make an online dating profile
Get a hobby
Go to an adult weekend camp
Go on a date until 4am then go our own ways
Scream at the top of my lungs somewhere no one can hear me
Find myself again
Make a mistake and don’t dwell on it
Forgive myself
Learn to stop being so afraid
Do something that scares me
Let go of my stress
Learn to carry my new baggage without it weighing me down
Buy a new purse to carry my baggage (and by that I mean all the shit I buy myself to forget him)
Tell someone my story and don’t cry
Learn to be immature
Give up for a day but then put on my big girl pants the nest day
Donate more time and money to things I care about
Learn to only care about things that ACTUALLY matter
Get married to the RIGHT man and have kids, and a house, and the fairy-tale I wanted with “he who shall not be named”